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7 Ways to Be (& Stay!) Empowered

February 22, 2010

There are two days left to register for my free teleseminar, “The 3 Keys of Empowered Parenting: How to Raise Self-Confident, Compassionate Children.” Amy Starr Allen of Moms Empowering Moms will be hosting this event on Wednesday February 24, 2010 at 1pm EST. If you can’t join us live, register anyway so you can get the audio recording to listen to on your own time.

Amy contributed this article. I think she has a very powerful message that fits in well with my parenting philosophy. Reading her thoughts, you’ll see that you’ll be in for a treat if you join us on Wednesday!

7 Ways to Be (& Stay!) Empowered

by Amy Starr Allen

As mothers, we are multi-taskers, nurturers, problem solvers, and a whole host of other roles. It’s easy to feel overwhelmed or even downright discouraged at times.

What would it be like if we could remain empowered through even the toughest of times? Don’t you think it would make a difference in the results of the tasks at hand?

Here are some strategies to help you be (and stay) empowered, no matter what your daily circumstances may look like.

1) Gratitude– Be continuously appreciative for EVERYTHING. Even the little things. It’s easy to focus on what’s wrong or what’s not working. And what you resist persists… so focusing on what’s wrong just creates more things that are ‘wrong’. Being appreciative ongoingly will not only keep you in a better mood, but it also miraculously causes the universe to give you more things to be appreciative for!

2) Build Your Confidence– The more confident we are, the more empowered we tend to feel. Here are some confidence builders:

  1. Look back over the course of your lifetime, or over the last year, month, or week, and think about all of the incredible feats you have accomplished. Give yourself credit for a job well done, regardless of how big or how small.
  2. Keep a small journal with you and write down every compliment you receive as you go through each day… ALL of them. As your journal fills up, you’ll be amazed how your confidence level will grow as well.
  3. Think about all of the great things about you… what a great friend you are, what a great cook you are, the beautiful children you have, your talents, etc. You have every reason to feel confident!

3) Meditate– As mothers, it’s really easy for us not to find time for silence in our lives. And this silence is a crucial element that will allow us to stay peaceful, sane and empowered. We actually need to disconnect from the ‘world’ on a regular basis in order to get quiet and connect to ‘Source’, the ‘Divine’, your ‘Higher Self’ or whatever name you’d like to give it. This is what grounds us and allows us to hear our voice of inspiration… something we have a really hard time hearing in the midst of all of our daily chaos. So, even if it’s just 15 or 30 minutes a day, making time to be silent will serve you well in all areas of your life.

4) Exercise– Often times we actually use the excuse that we just don’t feel up to exercising. And it’s a ‘catch 22’ situation because one of the main reasons you may not feel ‘up to it’ is because you don’t tend to give your body the kind of respect and attention it deserves by exercising regularly. The more you exercise, the more you WILL feel up to it! And the more committed you are to exercising regularly, the better you will look and feel every day. And you won’t only feel better physically… you’ll feel a lot better mentally and emotionally (and spiritually) as well.

5) Nurture Yourself- Our lives are busy–we’re working, we have children to take care of, we’re socializing, maybe we’re active in our communities… it’s really easy to neglect to take time for ourselves or, more importantly to MAKE time for ourselves. If we simply wait until we have extra time to do something nurturing, it’s funny how that time just never really seems to show up, isn’t it? By the time we’re done taking care of everyone and everything else, there’s seldom any time left for us. So we have to MAKE time. It’s important to make time… actually SCHEDULE time into your calendar to do some simple things for yourself like:

  1. take a hot bath
  2. read a great book
  3. get a massage
  4. get a pedicure
  5. take a nap
  6. go to a movie
  7. etc….

Take this step… start to actually schedule some time for these simple things for yourself and watch what happens. You will start to feel honored and loved, by YOU.

6) Learn– When we are learning, we are growing. And learning new things empowers us. So take the time to take a class or read a book about something that interests you or a new skill you’d like to learn. Not only will you feel empowered, but who knows what doors may open up for you because of the new knowledge you possess!

7) Celebrate– Take the time to celebrate your victories and your successes. So often we finish a project or a task and simply move on to the next thing without even taking the time to acknowledge ourselves. So celebrate! Treat yourself to a nice dinner or a glass of champagne… or call a friend and boast (or simply jump up and down and yell “Woohoo!!!”). But don’t let your victories go unnoticed. Not only will this empower you, but celebrating trains the subconscious mind that victories are good, and you will therefore subconsciously create more victories in your life to celebrate!

Most importantly, the best thing you can do for yourself on a daily basis is to accept yourself for the person you are. You, and all of us, have good points and bad points, strengths and weaknesses… we are human. When you can develop the ability to stand back and look at yourself honestly, and to be able to admit to others as well that you may not be perfect, but you are YOU and that’s all that you can be, you will start to enjoy a greater sense of self-acceptance and self-love… and that’s empowering!

Amy Starr Allen is an author, a business trainer and coach, and the owner of a successful home-based business. She is passionate about helping to make it possible for mothers to stay with their children and still be bread-winners. She created Moms Empowering Moms as a resource for mothers to support and empower each other to become leaders within their families, communities, businesses, and lives.

6 Comments leave one →
  1. February 22, 2010 8:02 pm

    I discovered your blog tag surfing on the topic of “gratitude”. I really enjoyed your tips on empowerment! Great reminders for us all to be empowered and grateful for all that surrounds us. Not to mention practicing good self care.

    Thanks for your post. I look forward to reading more blog entries.

    • drcuneo permalink*
      February 22, 2010 8:49 pm

      Thanks. I appreciate your comment. Please feel free to make any suggestions for future topics.

  2. February 24, 2010 9:25 pm

    I think these are great tips. As a dad and a husband, I would add that it is also ok to ask for help from your partner and share your frustrations, concerns and fears. You are not alone in this, even though, at times, you may feel that you have to bear the load all by yourself. If you know – and most importantly – feel the support of your partner on a daily basis, you will feel empowered.

    • drcuneo permalink*
      February 25, 2010 11:42 am

      Thanks so much for your comment. I completely agree that support from other people, including your partner, is key to feeling empowered.

  3. February 28, 2010 7:36 pm

    I “dugg” this article so much that I submitted it here: Thanks for the tips and reminders!

    • drcuneo permalink*
      February 28, 2010 8:00 pm

      Thanks so much. I’ll be sure to pass this on to Amy.

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